Secret is out – I actually have a list and story of my ideal dream man that I would like to settle down with. The list is exhaustive with the characteristics and behavioural traits, his interests, physique, financial and career choice, as well as our ideal activities, communication and interaction as a couple.
I might not find him in this lifetime, but I’m all set and dreaming about it makes me feel excited and wanting to improve myself so that I could be at par and be compatible with and desirable to this man.
Today, while looking at the list, I thought something was missing. I thought to myself, should I meet this man, but if he has the immaturity and not in tune with himself as a person; all of these might not matter. Everyone can be interesting if he or she invests in any activity, adventurous or not. Beauty and physique can be altered and shaped over time.
The essence of my dream man, additionally, is that, to me, it is important that he knows who he is at his core, has his own purpose in life, unswayed by what happens around him, does not have the herd mentality. Courageous and brave to get what he wants and protect what is his. And if he decides to be my partner, I expect openness, vulnerability and compassion to accept and love me as I am. I really could not find the word to express this part of a man yet – but I want someone who did his work, know how to separate his actions, is it trauma response, or is it what he wants because it aligns with his value. I guess this is really what I need to be a free being in my full essence as a woman.
I remember telling a friend, that I feel that I have not figure out what I want from a man or what I want in a relationship. I don’t 100% know yet, but I feel I’m getting there, and I’m ready to receive when I finally meet him. OK, gotta rewrite my list!